People share perspectives, not facts
from the book “Useful Not True”:
People communicate for social and emotional reasons. (Notice the word “commune” in “communicate”.)
Socially, they want to bond. Judgements, gossip, ethics, and opinions are all great for signaling and connecting.
Emotionally, they want validation. They want others to acknowledge and agree that their viewpoint is justified. When you can see someone’s point of view, it tells them that you’re standing on their side.
That’s why people rarely share objective unbiased facts. Actual facts are as boring as dirt. Nobody bonds over facts. They have more incentive to share their thoughts, which are never necessarily true.
Gauging alliances, highly obvious in female only groups, where all that matters is tone and emotional mirroring.